Friday, May 3, 2019

7 Habits of Highly Effective People

According to Stephen Covey, the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People will lead all of us through the staged of maturity to interdependence.

The 7 habits are an orderly sequence of growth which starts from achieving personal victories to attaining public victories.

  • Habit # 1 - BE PROACTIVE
  • Habit # 4 - THINK WIN-WIN
  • Habit # 6 - SYNERGIZE
  • Habit # 7 - SHARPEN THE SAW

Habits 1, 2 and 3 lead to private victories that allow us to achieve self-mastery and dominion over self.

Habits 4, 5 and 6 lead to public victories that allow us to achieve success with others.

These habits forms a continuum because private victory precedes public victory. Meaning, that unless we develop self-mastery, it is difficult, if not impossible, to achieve success with others.

Together these habits cultivate personal character, which is the foundation of effectiveness.

Saturday, May 14, 2016


Before we go through the list, let's examine first our LEADERSHIP capabilities.

The only way to get through all the list is to accept that things might not go the way we want it to be but still believe that everything will work out as it should be.

Every great leader is a "flexible" leader!

Flexibility (adj) - designs that can adapt when external changes occur.

Are you a flexible leader?

What are the benefits of becoming a flexible leader?

  • Leaders with the most varied responses ultimately wins.
  • Most great leaders do not fall apart when change and challenges show up.
  • Great leaders react positively to even the biggest challenges.

Now that we've gotten that straighten up, let's go through our list.

Here are 5 things every flexible leaders must do:


Let us remember, that TALENT coupled with DESIRE will always bring out our inner treasures. 
"Leadership success is the process of excavating the treasures of the invisible soul in order to bring dreams, desires, and talents into the visible world."


This spells character and attitude! Remove the bad stuff in your life and move forward. For example:
  • Physical (messy study area)
  • Attitude (laziness)
  • Relationships (B.I.)
"New things that actually have hope for the future cannot appear until you get rid of what was taking up the space that the new thing needs."


Get some worthwhile goals! Ask yourselves, “What will happen in the end?"

Here's how:
  • Script a Happy Ending (What's your end in mind - your definition of success)
  • Survive the scary scenes (Determination, Persistence and Oh, never give up)
  • Give an Oscar-Winning Performance (Remember it's more the journey than the destination)

Put the Man of Steel out of the job! Do not wait for a Superman to do things for you and start being a hero yourself.
Leaders continually ask themselves, “What can I do to make the situation better?”
Initiative (n) - the ability to take necessary action, on your own, which gets the job done.

So how do we put Superman out of the job:
  • Spring into action (go and do something, don't let others tell you what to do)
  • Get out of the Phone Booth (don't procrastinate and over-analyze everything - if you have a plan then execute it)
  • Do something super (Give everything your 110%)
“Ask God’s blessings on your work. But don’t ask him to do it for you.” – Flora Robinson


Lastly, work hard and work smart! Get over your unrealistic wants and go do what you can with whatever you have right now.

Here are some words of wisdom from the tiny insect world:
  • Go to the ant you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest. – Proverbs 6:6-8
  • Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs. – Henry Ford
  • Leaders achieve big goals by taking small steps over time.

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

On Learning

We are here to learn lessons, and the world is our teacher.
When we fail to learn a lesson,
we get to take it again... and again!
Once we have learned the lesson,
we move on to the next one.
And we never run out of lessons!

by Andrew Matthews

Friday, January 1, 2016

How to Develop the Happiness Habit


The Happiness Habit is your very own intellectual, emotional and spiritual thermostat.

The Happiness Habit does not mean looking for a person or a place to find happiness with or in, but to find happiness inside, inwards, which you carry anyplace, at anytime and with anybody.

The Happiness Habit means taking everything as is, where is, what is, why is and understands the how is.

The Happiness Habit is a lifetime tranquilizer against the "so-they-say" harsh realities of life. Happiness is your birthright. So take it.

Lastly, The Happiness Habit is as easy to pick up as the common cold and it's very contagious too. It can easily go around. So keep the contagion going.
Here it is:


See more, hear more, smell more, taste more and touch more.

Feel and experience as much as you can about everything around you. Discover those heightened moments, capture these beautiful experiences and then recreate them, relive them, specially when the times are low and when things aren't going so well.


Don't let resources die inside of you. Dig out your buried assets. Affirm.

Every morning, when you look in the mirror, start with a smile and say "I am going to be a success today."

Wear that smile for as long as you can until that smile stays glued on your face that you'll not be able to take it off even at moments of sadness. Promise yourself that from this day on, you are going to move toward greatness, fulfillment, achievement, success! For happiness is the quest to realization and actualization of your goals and ambition.


Be willing to make others happy and fulfilled. Help them find themselves. Show more warmth, friendship, sincerity, honesty, trust, love - because nobody but nobody ever gets enough of any.


Realize that God created you and the only way to return the favor is to thank Him and make the most of what He has given you.

The Secret to Success

What is the SECRET to SUCCESS?

The answer:
"There are no secrets to success! It is just you doing the things you know you should do and avoiding the things you shouldn't do."
Success is PERSONAL. Your definition of success can be and will be different from other people.
You must, therefore, have an end in mind. Find out first where you are now, who you are now, and what roles are you playing as of this moment. And then, search your heart to find out where do you really want to be and the roles you dream to play.

Success is not only the achievement of an ultimate goal, it is 'the' moving forward. It is conquering the gravity that pulls your feet down to make every step. It is the inches, the minutes, the hours, the months and the years that adds up to a fulfilling life.

Success is made up of many tiny successes which spawned mostly from the courage to meeting failures face to face without being defeated. 

Success is also discovering your best talents, skills, and abilities and applying them where they will make the most effective contribution to your own growth as an individual and to the growth of others.
"Doing what you do well and doing well whatever you do." - Longfellow
Success is not limited to any one area of your life. It encompasses all the facets of your relationships.

Success is harnessing your heart to a task you love. It is focusing the full power of all you are on what you desire to achieve.

Success is in each one of us waiting to be realized.

Thursday, November 19, 2015

The Seven Healthy Steps to Effective Leadership

LEADERSHIP is more than just a TITLE that people gives you when you get to top of something - it is and will always be a work in progress!

You work and progress or growth happens, not only to you but to all the people around you and the organization or community that you belong to.

Here are Seven Healthy Steps that you should take into consideration for you to become an effective leader - Always!

“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”

Be aware of the fact that not everything is as simple as black and white - and that there are many shades of grey. Leaders must realize that each situation is not necessarily summed up as right or wrong, perhaps it’s just different than what they are used to.

So an effective leader is a master of empathy or the ability to understand other people's feelings, thoughts or needs. They are sensitive to it and are therefore his or her actions are guided by it.

"Listen Well"

To effectively communicate with others is a critical part of leadership development. Everyone is given two ears and only one mouth so they might listen twice as much as they speak! Listening effectively is the key to good communication and effective leadership - for leadership, first and foremost, is about being a good communicator.

"Work Together"

Working well with others is another highly important skill for leaders. Getting more accomplished as a team in less time is always better than simply doing it alone.

"Give and Take"

Through the process of working in teams, leaders learn the art of give and take. Compromising in certain areas to ensure that the task is completed, and with all parties pleased with the outcome.

Sometimes, the Give and Take process brings out a far more better solution than a compromise.  Something that is different from what everyone has proposed but have agreed to fully. This is one of the many magic of effective leadership.

"Step by Step"

A large task can be overwhelming. However, Breaking down a task into smaller, bite-sized pieces will build more self confidence and provide a clearer vision for success.

An effective leader is a combination of a great strategic planner and an awesome organizational manager.

"See and Dream"

A leader who can see their outcome clearly is more likely to achieve success. The first task of effective leadership is to see where the group is now and to concretely know where  to go next..

"Push Forward"

An effective leader knows that failures are indispensable requirements to success. Mistakes should not define a leader of a group - it should however serve as a learning tool and a motivation to move further and to push forward.

Friday, October 2, 2015

The Five Secrets to Working Effectively

For those of you who thought that work is just a four-letter word, think again.

We study and try to learn in school for so many different reasons.

An old friend once told me a very interesting analogy between two different type of students studying here in the Philippines. 
A young chinoy (Filipino-Chinese), he said, is sent to good schools by his parents so that someday he will be capable of managing their family business or even manage his own business; while a young native-born Filipino is sent to good schools so that someday he will be able to find good work (usually in companies owned by Filipino-Chinese entrepreneurs) and bring home a good pay.
Although it is good to think that this analogy would lead many of our young natural-born Pinoys to realize that they too are given the same chance as the chinoys to be entrepreneurs someday, however, it does not mean that there is lesser honor in being an ordinary worker.

In fact, for one person to manage a business and a team of workers, that person must first understand the essence of work and he too must learn to become part of the team.

Here are five insights I've learned from writers, friends and from personal experiences that made me think of working in a totally different light:
There is more to working than earning a living.

You don’t work to bring home a salary. Try to ask yourself these questions:
  • Why am I working? or Why am I looking for work?
  • Why do I need this salary?
  • What keeps me working for this company?
The key is to keep asking yourself why and by the end of your self-inquiry you will have come face to face with your personal goal or an objective. If you are a working student, it might be because you wanted to finish college, practice law and manage your own law firm someday.  Or maybe because you want to get your own house, bring your kids to school and give them a better future. Whatever it is, you don’t work just to earn a living.

You don’t work for your boss.

You work for yourself and your job is to give your best and that’s the way you enjoy your work. Think of your application form as a registration paper to fight as a soldier for your country in times of war. When you got hired, you went out to war but not without proper guidance and training. Your commander-in-chief or your boss gives you instructions and directions. Now, if you signed up to fight for your commander-in-chief then by all means fight and die for your boss. But you signed -up for a different mission and when you go out there with your guns and bullets you fight for this mission, and you fight to stay alive.

You work for your goals and you work for yourself.

You are competing against people who love what they are doing.

Yes, work is a competition. Your opponents are your co-workers and so are the rest of the working population on this planet. But the game is not measured in skills and knowledge. We are measured by the amount of love and dedication we give to our work and our co-workers.
You always had a choice. Change your attitude or change your job.

How many times have I heard complaints about co-workers, bosses and organizational systems that doesn’t seem to jive with our expectations.

Andrew Matthews, well-loved speaker, cartoonist and author of “Follow your Heart,” said that our primary mission in life is not to change the world but to change ourselves. The key to this concept is to deeply understand a person and a situation and to try to see things in a different lens. With this unselfish act, you may be able to effect a change in yourself, in the way you see things around your work area and in the way you act at the same work situations that used to bother you and maybe, somehow cause a positive change to the other person or the situation.

However, changing your attitude may not be as effective if you don’t really like what you are doing. Ask yourself if you love what you are doing right now, if not, then change your job and do something that you like or maybe just try to love what you are doing right now. Find out what interests you in your present job and always focus on your goal. A kitchen helper sings while he cooks because he knows that he’s going to be a singer someday. Meanwhile, he makes his job and his co-workers’ job more enjoyable by singing and performing for the rest of the kitchen staff during his shift.

The only ones among you who will be truly happy will be those who have sought and found how to serve.

Work requires commitment and commitment requires sacrifice. Sacrifice is offering oneself for something that you believe in.

When I was asked by a friend to give an example of real service in work, only one thing came to mind: teaching. 

I could have answered missionary work, priestly vocations, the armed forces but teachers have always amazed me. Especially those who never had the chance to marry because of their dedication to their work. Although sometimes you hear them say how much tired they are for doing the same things for years you’ll know that in their hearts they really love what they are doing and with that love comes a great sacrifice of service to educate and guide the future generations, and their real consolation is just to see this young and restless spirits grow to be productive members of the society.